Do you take daily vitamins and/or supplements?
Do you give your children vitamins?
Maybe you distribute Flintstones chewables every morning or perhaps the Kirkland brand gummy vitamins from Costco? Those are the ones our kiddos love. Of course a well-balanced diet that is high in fruits and vegetables is the ideal solution to healthy living.
But sometimes a vitamin boost can be quite helpful.
Do you give your children vitamins?
Maybe you distribute Flintstones chewables every morning or perhaps the Kirkland brand gummy vitamins from Costco? Those are the ones our kiddos love. Of course a well-balanced diet that is high in fruits and vegetables is the ideal solution to healthy living.
But sometimes a vitamin boost can be quite helpful.
Where the marriage and family relationship is concerned, a well-balanced "diet" that is high in effective parenting is the ideal solution to successful living.
Dr. Richard B. Miller, Director of The School of Family Life at Brigham Young University quoted Dr. John Rosemond as saying, "“Give your children regular, daily doses of Vitamin N. This vital nutrient consists simply of the most character-building two-letter word in the English language––‘'No’ . . . Unfortunately, many, if not most, of today’s children suffer from Vitamin N deficiency. They have been over-indulged by well-meaning parents who have given them far too much of what they want and far too little of what they truly need" (bold added).
Dr. Richard B. Miller, Director of The School of Family Life at Brigham Young University quoted Dr. John Rosemond as saying, "“Give your children regular, daily doses of Vitamin N. This vital nutrient consists simply of the most character-building two-letter word in the English language––‘'No’ . . . Unfortunately, many, if not most, of today’s children suffer from Vitamin N deficiency. They have been over-indulged by well-meaning parents who have given them far too much of what they want and far too little of what they truly need" (bold added).
There are many reasons why a parents might find it difficult to distribute this important
Vitamin N ("No"). . . perhaps they want to give their children the things they themselves did not have growing up. They don't want their children to have to "suffer" as they did. Or maybe they did not have a good relationship with their own parents during their childhood and think the parent-child relationship would be improved if the child was pleased all the time. Regarding this matter, Joseph F. Smith said, "God forbid that there should be any of us so unwisely indulgent, so thoughtless and so shallow in our affection for our children that we dare not check them in a wayward course, in wrong-doing and in their foolish love for the things of the world more than for the things of righteousness, for fear of offending them."
Vitamin N ("No"). . . perhaps they want to give their children the things they themselves did not have growing up. They don't want their children to have to "suffer" as they did. Or maybe they did not have a good relationship with their own parents during their childhood and think the parent-child relationship would be improved if the child was pleased all the time. Regarding this matter, Joseph F. Smith said, "God forbid that there should be any of us so unwisely indulgent, so thoughtless and so shallow in our affection for our children that we dare not check them in a wayward course, in wrong-doing and in their foolish love for the things of the world more than for the things of righteousness, for fear of offending them."
Clearly, rules, standards, and guidelines are important in parenting and holding children accountable to them through using Vitamin N ("No means no.") is vital. Husbands and wives need to be united in these efforts for the "vitamin" to be digested completely. But as we know, too much of anything -- even a good thing -- can have negative side effects. So parents must also administer doses of Vitamin Y as well -- Vitamin Yes.
Vitamin Yes actually supports Vitamin No . . . "Yes, you may go to the party AFTER you have finished your homework" (the rule is stated, the standard and guideline supported). And if the child does not adhere to this, then Vitamin No is given -- "No, you may not go to the party because you chose to not finish your homework." Consistency and clear communication are crucial in these efforts.
Vitamin Yes actually supports Vitamin No . . . "Yes, you may go to the party AFTER you have finished your homework" (the rule is stated, the standard and guideline supported). And if the child does not adhere to this, then Vitamin No is given -- "No, you may not go to the party because you chose to not finish your homework." Consistency and clear communication are crucial in these efforts.
In my opinion, the best instructions for Vitamins N and Y application do not come from FDA Approval . . . rather, they are Heaven-approved.
The Lord has said, "No power or influence can or ought to be maintained by virtue of the priesthood, only by persuasion, by long-suffering, by gentleness, and meekness, and by love unfeigned; By kindness, and pure knowledge, which shall greatly enlarge the soul without hypocrisy and without guile -- Reproving betimes with sharpness, when moved upon by the Holy Ghost; and then showing forth afterwards an increase of love toward him whom thou hast reproved, lest he esteem thee to be his enemy"
(Doctrine & Covenants 121:41-43).
The Lord has said, "No power or influence can or ought to be maintained by virtue of the priesthood, only by persuasion, by long-suffering, by gentleness, and meekness, and by love unfeigned; By kindness, and pure knowledge, which shall greatly enlarge the soul without hypocrisy and without guile -- Reproving betimes with sharpness, when moved upon by the Holy Ghost; and then showing forth afterwards an increase of love toward him whom thou hast reproved, lest he esteem thee to be his enemy"
(Doctrine & Covenants 121:41-43).
This scripture is one of my favorites and I have it posted on my office computer, on the wall in our family room, and marked boldly in my scriptures.
It reminds me of the Lord's way of parenting and encourages me and my husband to continue working together in order to achieve the balanced doses of both Vitamins N and Y!
It reminds me of the Lord's way of parenting and encourages me and my husband to continue working together in order to achieve the balanced doses of both Vitamins N and Y!
Miller, Richard B., Ph.D. "Who is the Boss? Power Relationships in Families." March 2009. BYU Family Life Conference.
Smith, Joseph F., Gospel Doctrine, p. 286.
Doctrine & Covenants 121:41-43
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